Struggles Vulnerable Clients About Us Neuro-inclusive Nourishment Affirming Support ​ We are here to provide affirming and effective support for neur odivergent people around food and eating. ​ Whether you are autistic, ADHD, highly sensitive, sensory processing differences, seizure disorders, OCD or otherwise identify as neurodivergent, you are in the right place . ​ Struggling with Eating? ​ We are here to help you/your loved one with food struggles like: Skipping meals Forgetting to eat Overwhelm/avoidance with grocery shopping General anxiety around eating Shame or guilt around eating Negative thought patterns around eating Negative thought patterns around body size/shape Feeling gross in your body during/after eating GI problems causing fear with eating Pain with eating or after eating Underfueling in athletics Binge eating Throwing up after eating Using exercise to compensate for eating Unable to eat enough due to fear of weight gain Unable to eat enough due to fear of vomiting or choking Poor appetite Lack of motivation to prepare food or eat food Obsessive thoughts or behaviors around food Anxiety around going out to restaurants Anxiety around family or social gatherings that involve eating Hiding food/hiding eating Vulnerable, NOT Broken We are here to remind you/your loved one that… You are not broken. It’s common for neurodivergent people to get out of balance with eating. It doesn’t mean anything negative about you as a person. ​ ​ Neuro-different people are vulnerable to developing persistent problematic patterns with eating because of: differences in the nervous system, brain and body, and the impact of being a neuro-different person in a neurotypical world. ​ These vulnerabilities include: Challenges with the practical aspects of eating due to:​ differences in executive functioning like time management and planning, differences in focus (like getting stuck in project mode and forgetting to eat), differences in motivation and reward pathways and differences in sleep/wake cycles. Challenges with identifying hunger cues due to differences in interoceptive awareness, body awareness and body attunement. Needs for specific foods and eating environments due to sensory differences, social differences and physical sensitivities. Overall higher anxiety and fear around food due to nervous system tendencies toward hypoarousal or hyperarousal, pain or GI distress with eating or after eating, and/or eating needs being unmet, invalidated, mocked or pathologized. Vulnerability to be influenced by parents, social media, athletic coaches or culture at large to follow restrictive diets due to pressure to ‘perform normalcy’ to be safe and accepted and the high drive to be good, excel at sports and/or optimize health. Vulnerability to become stuck in persistent problematic patterns with food due to the safety, familiarity and coping mechanisms these patterns can provide for a neurodivergent person dealing with loneliness, overwhelm, overload, rejection sensitivity, alexithymia, emotional processing differences, and feelings of inadequacy. Likelihood of failure or harm in traditional one-size-fits-all eating disorder treatment approaches that are not designed for neurodivergent people and lead to worsening issues with food and increased shame and hopelessness. ​ Here to Help Eating issues are rough. You deserve individualized support that actually helps you. We are here to support you/your loved one… ​ ​ Client focus Individuals (16+) in one-on-o ne therapy Couples where food/eating/body image is impacting the relationship Parent(s) seeking support to help their child (tween, teen or young adult) with food and eating. ​ About Us We are a team of clinicians dedicated to helping neurodivergent people with food and eating. While there are common themes that we see with neurodivergent folks and eating, each of our clients is unique . We are eager to learn about your individual story and experiences with food. We draw upon a range of approaches including CBT/DBT, relational therapy, narrative therapy, somatic therapy, internal family systems, social justice focused therapy and family based treatment. We figure out together what works for you. Danielle B. Grossman Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist #42516 Daniellebgrossmanmft@gmail.com Lead clinician and developer of Neuro-Inclusive Nourishment 20 years experience working in the field of eating disorders, disordered eating and neurodivergence Read more about Danielle here ​ Lauren Florio Board registered Associate Marriage and Family Therapist #139592 (supervised by Dr. Harry Motro , clinical director). Neuro-Inclusive Nourishment Specialist Co-Founder of She Rocks the Spectrum The therapeutic modalities used in neuro-inclusive nourishment work: Dialectical Behavioral Therapy (DBT), Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT), and Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing (EMDR) for trauma processing. Read more about Lauren here ​ ​ Monica Attia Board registered Associate Marriage and Family Therapist #141520 (supervised by Dr. Harry Motro , clinical director). Neuro-Inclusive Nourishment Specialist Therapist at She Rocks the Spectrum The therapeutic modalities used in neuro-inclusive nourishment work: Brainspotting Internal Family Systems Narrative Therapy Read more about Monica here ​ Check out our Eating & Autism Therapy site. Click to Enlarge Image Struggles Clients Vulnerable About Us

< Back Joseph Kaiser My Story Born and raised in the Redwoods of Northern California, I spent two decades in the advertising industry as a creative director, art director, and copywriter collaborating on regional, national and global campaigns. As a creative director nothing was more thrilling then collaborating with other creatives. Nurturing diverse perspectives and personalities to create high impact campaigns was a source of great personal and professional inspiration. Later I founded two small businesses; one in tech accessories and another manufacturing active toys developed for neurodiverse, neurotypical, and other children with special needs. I am a US Patent holder and was honored with a Silver Clio Award 2002, Bronze Clio 2002 and published in Graphis Design Annual 2004 and American Graphic Design 2003. My goal is to empower growth through the use of dynamic evidence-based theories and therapeutic rapport. Though I love my work with individuals, I am particularly passionate about couples work and how it can lead to individual well being and familial harmony. For better or worse, our earliest programming teaches us what we think marriage 'should' be. The truth is, marriage is what we make of it. We are the creators and, although painful at times, it can also inspire and empower. I am a firm believer that people heal and grow in connection to others. ​ Main Areas of Focus Neurodiverse Couples Some couples have yet to realize they are neurodiverse. When they finally do, a diagnosis can feel like a relief after years of pain and contention. One common complaint from a partner may be that they are being "gaslighted” by the neurodiverse partner; accused of being irrational and not having their experience or feelings validated. The neurodiverse partner can feel overwhelmed and misunderstood. Common differences in communication are logical vs. emotional, concrete vs. abstract, absolute vs. relative, and avoidant vs. insistent. The first step is to help couples identify just how differences in their wiring affect their interaction cycles. Next is to break blame and shame patterns and find acceptance in differences through a structured step by step process that helps you rediscover love and acceptance. ​ Couples De-escalation and healthy communication are a crucial place to start but only one dimension of couples work. Uncovering deeper unspoken truths and patterns by creating an environment of trust and acceptance is at the core of the healing process. Exploring and validating each partner's unique experience is essential to connecting. I help clients work past blame and shame. Major life changes like the loss of a job, the arrival of a child, or grief and loss, can bring about a shift in dynamics. My goal is to help couples grow together instead of apart while retaining their own identity. I provide a structured approach to couples therapy using elements of EFT, Gottman Method, CBT, Attachment Theory, Relational Life Therapy, Internal Family Systems and more. ​ Affair Recovery Unfortunately, affairs transcend race, culture, sexuality, age, and socio-economic background. Whether it be emotional or sexual, infidelity is traumatic. The betrayed partner can develop depression, anxiety, and symptoms similar to PTSD while the unfaithful partner can be plagued with guilt. My first step is crisis management to stabilize your lives so the therapeutic work can begin. Once the immediate crisis has settled, the real work begins. If partners are willing, compassionate, and persistent, it can be an opportunity for tremendous growth. Affairs may be a reflection of long-standing wounds or struggles that pre-dated the marriage as well as patterns that developed during the relationship. Understanding why the affair occurred is critical to getting on a productive path to affair recovery. Using a step-by-step process, I will compassionately steer couples through this difficult minefield. ​ Parenting And Co-Parenting It is in the best interest of their children for parents to move from an adversarial relationship to a cooperative and collaborative one. After 15 years of parenting and co-parenting of his own, I leverage my training and personal experience to help couples develop co-parenting plans and maintain a safe, secure, nurturing environment for their children to thrive. When done successfully, co-parenting counseling can improve the child’s confidence and self-esteem. Individuals As a compassionate professional, I am committed to helping individuals find healing, growth, and relationship transformation. This begins with building rapport which I believe is the wellspring of effective psychotherapy. I work with challenges such as depression, stress or anxiety, self-esteem, and career transition. Whether it is the cycle of life, health crisis, a move, a loss, relational struggles or change of circumstances, we can become overwhelmed. All too often there is a confluence of things that happen all at once. We thought we could handle it all but our body and psyche say no. I have a compassionate, accepting, curious approach that melds joining the client with various therapeutic methodologies and evidence-based practices. Other Areas of Focus Neurodiverse Couples Therapy & Coaching Trauma informed therapy Depression & Anxiety Treatment Life transitions High stress jobs Discernment Counseling Trauma-informed Therapy Pre-marital Counseling Depression and Anxiety Grief, loss, and shame Clients Couples of all ages Couples of all ethnic backgrounds Adult Individuals. Men, Women High achievers Modalities Internal Family Systems (IFS) Emotionally Focuses Therapy (EFT) Narrative Therapy Solution-Focused Brief Therapy (SFBT) Person-Centered Therapy Gottman Method Family Systems Positive Psychology Attachment-based Culturally Sensitive Existential Family Systems Humanistic Mindfulness Motivational License Registered AMFT #133330 Supervised by Dr. Harry Motro , LMFT #53452 Employed by New Path Couples Therapy Inc. Specialty areas: Addiction, Discernment, Affairs, Sex, Assessment, LGBTQIA+, Neurodiverse Couples, Autism, ADHD, Blended, Parenting Neurodiversity, Parenting, Internal Family Systems, Eating & Autism, ND at Work Reach Out Now First name Last name Email If you have a therapist(s) in mind, include the name(s) below: Send Thanks for reaching out! We will respond within 24 hours. Take an Autism Test

< Back Steve Howard “The world needs different kinds of minds working together.” Temple Grandin Improving Neurodiverse Relationship Skills Steve has personal experience working with neurodiversity and believes that neurodiverse couples can learn new skills to help them break old patterns and relate to one another in new ways. To some extent, all couples enter into their relationships with a lack of interpersonal skills and insufficient knowledge of who their partner is as a person. For neurodiverse couples, this skill deficit is magnified by being uninformed about how they are differently wired. Being uninformed often leads to unhealthy ways of seeing and reacting to their partner. It creates separateness where you are hoping to build togetherness. With Steve, each week in therapy, you will learn skills to help improve the intimacy that will become the glue that binds you together. Steve will be careful to facilitate the skill building in a way that honors the dignity of both partners. Both-And Thinking Steve is committed to using evidence-based therapeutic practices to work with neurodiverse couples, helping them shift their approach to life from “either-or” to “both-and” thinking . What this means for neurodiverse couples is BOTH of you are right in some way AND you can learn to use better relationship skills. This new approach will empower your different minds to work together for the good of your relationship. ​ "DBT" for Helping Neurodiverse Couples He has been trained in using Dialectical Behavior Therapy (DBT) to teach neurodiverse couples how to navigate life’s emotional challenges with a more skillful approach. DBT teaches practical skills to help people live with greater mindfulness of their emotional life and a non-judgmental approach to their relationships. Some of the elements of this approach include:​ Using the "Wise Mind" in your relationship Learn skills to effectively manage negative emotions “Reconditioning” a difficult situation so it triggers more effective emotional responses and intensity Using Mindfulness to transform communication Expectations He believes that many of the problems faced by neurodiverse individuals are related to expectations of modern society versus limitations imposed by the condition . By openly discussing this expectation gap without harsh judgment, couples can begin to reset expectations in their relationship in a new constructive way. This will help both partners enter the thought (and emotional) world of their partner in order to improve the health of the couple’s relationship. ​ Anger Management/Mindfulness ​ Anger can be a toxic force that slowly builds in a neurodiverse relationship and ultimately interferes with the growth of intimacy. This usually takes the form of meltdowns and shutdowns. For couples, learning to manage anger will help you grow in ways that feel nurturing and address the underlying hurt or pain that is driving the anger in the first place. Steve will bring his extensive experience teaching anger management to prisoners into his work with your relationship. Steve will teach you to use mindfulness skills to identify your anger triggers. As a couple, you can help each other create a personal “ Anger Meter” as a visual aid that helps you monitor your anger. Together, you will learn how to use a “time out” to give each other some space to regulate your emotions so you can eventually reconnect. Couples must remember that anger is an emotion that we all experience, sometimes more or less intensely due to your brain wiring. Steve will help you use the skills you learn in therapy to understand the message behind the anger and allow that message to provide greater understanding and intimacy with your partner. ​ About Steve: Steve is a Neurodiverse Couples Coach and a Registered Associate Marriage and Family Therapist who graduated from the Counseling Psychology program at CSU Bakersfield . He also holds a B.A. in Psychology from Pacific Lutheran University in Tacoma, Washington. He has experience providing therapy and counseling to couples/individuals/groups through on-line therapy as well as in-person in the community of Bakersfield, California. ​ Other areas of focus General Couples Therapy Blended Family Issues Separation and Divorce Anger Management Working Through Anxiety ​ Modalities Cognitive Behavioral Therapy Dialectical Behavior Therapy Humanistic Therapy ​License MS, Registered Associate, AMFT 110174 Supervised By Dr. Harry Motro , LMFT #53452 Employed By New Path Couples Therapy, Inc. Specialty areas: Christian, Blended, Parenting, Discernment, Neurodiverse Couples, Affairs, Autism, DBT Reach Out Now First name Last name Email If you have a therapist(s) in mind, include the name(s) below: Send Thanks for reaching out! We will respond within 24 hours. Take an Autism Test

< Back Anne Hoglund You've landed here looking for support, needing more care and attention for yourself and for your significant relationship. Perhaps you or your partner are also neurodivergent, and you're wanting neuro-informed support that understands the complexities of that experience and how that would impact a relationship. Connection is not a constant state in any relationship. We are always moving in and out of it. If disconnection lasts for too long, there is greater likelihood for misunderstandings and ways of relating that can further that separateness. Our work together helps you to reconnect more easily and helps you know, understand, and love each other better. By providing you warmth, compassion, and acceptance, I offer a space to feel seen and heard and can provide you direction on the roadmap back to one another. I take an integrative approach, accounting for the different aspects of who you both are, of your family, and the systems that you are embedded in. Know that there is help here for you and that, by working together, we can navigate the path back to greater, more effective communication, greater appreciation and understanding of yourself and your partner, and greater overall satisfaction in your relationship. I look forward to walking with you on this path towards reconnection. My Story I grew up in the Midwest and relocated to California in my early adulthood. I was always drawn to creative endeavors and pursuing my degree in fine art seemed like a natural choice. However, after working as a graphic designer for many years I felt that something was lacking. My heart wasn’t in it, as much as it was in the healing and spiritual pursuits I was doing outside of my work life. As a deep-feeling person, I knew that I wanted to contribute something, to have a positive impact. I enjoyed most helping others, especially in navigating their significant relationships and life's challenges. After experiencing the positive benefits of my own work in therap y, I returned to school to study counseling psychology. I loved the work and felt that I had finally found where I “fit.” Upon graduation from my program, I took a break from working as a therapist to start a family, and was thrust into the real "work" of a marriage, parenting, and managing a home as well as helping aging parents with significant health issues . During this time our oldest child also received an autism diagnosis . I know from experience how that can deeply impact a marriage and the needs of a family both at home and out in the world. I saw clearly that navigating support for resources was an extremely challenging and time-consuming process, and there was so little available to help parents process these changes and challenges. As well, little is offered to keep parents feeling hopeful for the future and appreciative of their unique child. I want to support individuals and couples, especially parents, around the topic of neurodivergence, as they find their way into new rhythms and greater joys in their relationships and families, as well as helping them build relationship skills and resilience to be more supported in life's harder times. Life Experience I have an autistic child who is exploring their gender and identity I have a sibling diagnosed with ADHD and neurodivergence exists on both sides of our extended families I have many autistic traits I have a background working in a creative field for over 20 years and in working in higher education and non-profit organizations Specialties and Certifications Neurodiverse Couples Specialist Neurodiverse Parenting Specialist Associate Marriage and Family Therapist ​Education Masters in Integral Counseling Psychology Bachelor of Fine Arts in Visual Communication License & Certifications ​Registered Associate Marriage Family Therapist, AMFT # 110323 Supervised by Dr. Harry Motro , LMFT #53452 Employed by New Path Couples Therapy Inc . Specialty areas: Parenting Neurodiversity, Parenting, Autism, Neurodiverse Couples, ADHD Reach Out Now First name Last name Email If you have a therapist(s) in mind, include the name(s) below: Send Thanks for reaching out! We will respond within 24 hours. Take an Autism Test

< Back Robin Greenblat Robin is an Associate Marriage and Family Therapist who has graduated with a Master's in Clinical Psychology from Notre Dame de Namur University in Belmont, CA. She has a background in behavioral health, education, transitional youth, addiction and recovery services, and suicide prevention. She has worked with couples who have adult children struggling with ASD, ADHD, addiction, depression, and anxiety . She has experience working in diverse cultures and backgrounds in outpatient clinics, large healthcare systems, and private practices. She believes everyone has a voice and deserves to feel safe, respected, and heard. Robin encourages her clients to connect by offering a safe, nurturing environment, enabling clients to feel supported and valued. Life experience With 30 years of marriage and parenting four children. Robin's personal experience has given her a unique perspective to help her clients explore, reconnect, and rediscover their "sparkle." She understands the challenges of working, parenting, and finding time for self-care while strengthening personal and professional relationships. ​ Working with couples She works with couples, individuals, and family systems to develop improved communication, respect, and love. She helps couples and individuals through life transitions such as a new home, first child, loss of career, or loss of a loved one by exploring coping skills to reduce stressors and move towards healing. In addition, Robin works with couples to become more self-aware of their behavior and how it affects their loved ones. ​ Robin's approach to therapy Robin's approach is humanistic and creates a safe and non-judgmental environment for her clients to communicate openly. She has worked with families and children by guiding her clients towards rewarding and harmonious connections. She specializes in working with couples and individuals who want to improve their relationships, reduce stress, and make realistic goals with solution-focused therapy, positive communication, self-awareness, and self-care. Robin uses evidence-based therapeutic approaches by helping her clients to focus on building solutions by providing emotional and psychological safety to foster positive motivation and change. NEURODIVERSE RELATIONSHIPS The Basics: Neurodiverse couples have one partner that is neurotypical and one partner who has a diagnosis of autism spectrum disorder (ASD) and/or Attention Deficit Hyperactivity Disorder (ADHD). Neurodiverse couples can have different communication styles and perspectives, making intimate and loving relationships a challenge. However, neurodiverse couples can grow together by finding meaningful connections, focusing on their preferences, and learning to understand each other better. ​ Based on the goals of the Neurodiverse couple, Robin will help support stronger relationships and work on problem-solving skills. Couples will learn to focus on new ways to celebrate each other, reconnect, and interpret intention successfully. Through acceptance, education, and self-awareness, couples will practice relating to each other to create a more harmonious relationship. Common Symptoms: In adults, some common symptoms of ASD might look like: having difficulties interpreting facial expressions, interpreting body language, or understanding the social cues of others. Regulating emotions during conversations, reflecting emotions through vocal inflection, and engaging in repetitive behaviors might be challenging for someone with ASD. In addition, individuals with ASD may have specific and/or extreme interests and routines. The interests of individuals on the spectrum may seem obsessive, such as spending large amounts of time engaging in only certain activities under certain circumstances. Difference Turned into Strength: With these challenges, how can neurodiverse couples expand and enhance their relationship? Neurodiverse couples can use their different perspectives as strengths to shift away from conflict and understand each other’s thoughts and perspectives. Because everyone sees the world differently, a neurodiverse couple has a unique perspective. Each partner has a different way of thinking, different brain wiring, and experiences. While the neurodiverse couple may face challenges, having different ways of viewing situations and experiences can bring new and comprehensive perspectives. Neurodiverse couples can develop an awareness of their unique perspectives and accept their differences as a value rather than an annoyance . For example, each partner can see different ways of interacting or completing tasks. Working out tasks together can be an opportunity rather than a challenge for the neurodiverse couple to work together to become more tolerant of each other’s way of thinking. Having both shared and individual interests can encourage the neurodiverse couple’s autonomy and enhance the quality of life. Through acceptance and commitment, the neurodiverse couple can see each other through a new lens. Trust and Emotional Safety: Couples therapy can help the neurodiverse couple by finding how to deepen trust and understand how each partner views their experiences. By creating emotional safety and acceptance, couples therapy can help the neurodiverse couple to develop goals. Bringing importance to each partner and their intentions allows the neurodiverse couple to focus on their differences as a strength. Acceptance and commitment can help to increase feelings of compassion, connection, love, and happiness. Specialties Neurodiverse Counseling (ASD and ADHD) Couples and individual life transitions Discernment Counseling Pre-marital Counseling Depression and Anxiety Grief, loss, and shame Self-forgiveness Clients Couples, Elder Couples, Individuals Modalities Solution Focused Therapy (SFBT), Emotion-Focused Therapy (EFT), Compassion Focused Therapy (CFT), Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT), Family System Therapy, Gestalt Therapy, Person-Centered Therapy, Humanistic Approach License Registered Associate, AMFT #114045 Supervised by Dr. Harry Motro , LMFT #53452 Employed by New Path Couples Therapy Inc. Specialty areas: Assessment, ADHD, Discernment, Neurodiverse Couples, Autism, Addiction, Cassandra, DBT Reach Out Now First name Last name Email If you have a therapist(s) in mind, include the name(s) below: Send Thanks for reaching out! We will respond within 24 hours. Take an Autism Test

< Back Lauren Florio Helping Someone like Myself When I think about the kind of work I want to do as a therapist, I think about my younger self and how much easier my life would have been if I knew then what I know now about my neurodivergence. If you’re at a stage in your life where you’re trying to navigate your differences in an allistic world, you’ve come to the right place. As someone with AuDHD (Autism and Attention Deficit Hyperactivity Disorder) , I felt like there was something wrong with me for most of my life. Now I’ve learned to appreciate, cope with, and embrace my differences. And now I want to help you do the same. ​ My Story ​ I grew up in Northern California, under the poverty line. In a family struggling with finances, doctor visits were scarce, and psychiatry visits were nearly out of the question. ADHD AND ME Though I was able to get my ADHD diagnosis relatively young, not much changed for me and the crippling differences I felt from the rest of society. With ADHD medication not being a good fit for me, it seemed this diagnosis was a dead end at the time. I wish I had known more back then and would have kept exploring my neurodivergence as it would have likely led me to my autism diagnosis much sooner. FIGHTING BACK Instead, I spent the majority of my life trying to push through a world that felt like it was fighting back at me. Much of my life was spent disassociating or with severe panic attacks from under or over-stimulation. As an adult, I finally began seeking mental health help after a lifelong battle with depression. Though I saw some benefits from my depression and anxiety treatments, it felt like a band-aid on the real issue. I spent years in therapy with dozens of different therapists. MY AUTISM DIAGNOSIS It wasn’t until I was told to explore an autism diagnosis that things changed for me. During this time, I was also in school. I received my Bachelor's Degree at Chico State University before moving down to Southern California to complete my Master's of Arts in Counseling Psychology in San Diego. During this time, I was learning more about psychology and my passion continued to grow for the human mind, specifically neurodivergence. Finally, receiving my autism diagnosis was like a breath of fresh air. MASK COMES OFF Since coming to terms with my autism, I have learned to unmask, reconnect with my inner child, and develop unique coping skills beyond breathing and meditation, skills that actually work for me. Through this journey, I have become a better partner, friend, daughter, and sister. For the first time in my life, I am able to meet myself with kindness. My journey here was tumultuous, but I hope because of my journey, I can help you learn about your neurodivergence and guide you to becoming a better version of yourself along the way, too. ​ NEURO-INCLUSIVE NOURISHMENT ​ Binge, Restrict, & Purge Cycles In elementary school, I put myself on my first diet. Mimicking what I saw around me, I grew up in a house where there was constant dieting which affected me heavily. I was aware of my body, weight, and every aspect of my beauty as a result. My relationship with eating disorders changed in many ugly ways from middle school through my undergrad program. With hard work and lots of help, I was able to overcome my many battles surrounding binge, restrict, and purge cycles. I want to use my both personal and professional experience to help you heal your relationship with food and create a more positive body image. ARFID Data shows there is an overlap of neurodivergence and ARFID (Avoidant/Restrictive Food Intake Disorder). Many people believe that ARFID is a disorder that only affects children, but this is simply not true. As an Autistic woman with ARFID, I am very aware of how sensory issues can negatively affect your ability to eat regularly and get adequate nutrition. Overcoming sensory issues is hard, but you only get one body. Maintaining regular caloric intake with diverse nutrition is vital in keeping our body healthy. Let's work together to overcome this and keep our bodies healthy and happy. ​ To read more about Neuro-inclusive Nourishment, click here. Certifications & Education Board registered Associate Marriage and Family Therapist #139592 (supervised by Dr. Harry Motro, clinical director). Master’s of Arts in Counseling Psychology from National University in San Diego. Neurodiverse Specialist Co-Founder of She Rocks the Spectrum Neuro-inclusive Nourishment Specialist ​ DBT/CBT/EMDR The therapeutic modalities I am trained in and use are: Dialectical Behavioral Therapy (DBT), Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT), and Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing (EMDR) for trauma processing. ​ Group Facilitator I run our She Rocks Friendship Group . Read more here. When I am not working with my clients here at She Rocks the Spectrum, I host small groups which are designed for those with social anxiety, neurodivergence, and members of the LGBTQ+. ​ COMMON GROUND I am a trained CommonGround Specialist. CommonGround is a program created by Pat Deegan, which was developed to help promote advocacy and independence for those with mental health issues.Clients Neurodiverse women Autistic, ADHD, Highly Sensitive Neurodiverse clients with eating struggles Modalities Dialectical Behavioral Therapy (DBT), Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT), Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing (EMDR) for trauma processing CBT/DBT License Associate Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist, #139592 (supervised by Dr. Harry Motro , clinical director) Specialty areas: Trans, LGBTQIA+, ADHD, Autism, Sex-Kink-Poly, Eating & Autism, Parenting Neurodiversity, Children, Teens, Assessment, DBT, ND at Work, Neurodiverse Couples Reach Out Now First name Last name Email If you have a therapist(s) in mind, include the name(s) below: Send Thanks for reaching out! We will respond within 24 hours. Take an Autism Test

< Back Inna Kuchmenko Neurodiverse Couples My first introduction to working with neurodiversity was in the role of a child therapist using Mindfulness and nature’s healing potential to help children on the Spectrum learn how to regulate their emotions. Teaching young children to self-regulate taught me, first and foremost, that I needed to self-regulate first. In my work from a strength-based perspective, I learned about the richness of neurodiverse individuals and the incredible power my empathy had in unlocking their inner abilities and capacities for relating to themselves and others. How did I do this? I listened. I attuned. I felt with them. I refrained from teaching, coaching, or fixing. ​ Fostering Connection: When I work with neurodiverse couples, I model and invite couples to practice how to attune to each other. Attunement is not just listening. It is listening with heart. When we are emotionally available, responsive, and engaged with one another, deeper conversations can and do happen. When we make sense of our own and our partner’s actions and words in the framework of compassion and from a perspective of goodness, we begin to tap into the richness of difference and into the deep well of our human ability to relate. ​ Improving Communication: At times I may act as a neuro-bio-psychosocial interpreter, helping a neuro-normative partner make sense and understand their neuro-diverse spouse. Other times, I coach a neurodiverse partner to express the depth and richness of their inner world in a way that their neuro-normative partner can receive. You may wonder why this has been challenging to do in your couple relationship. The answer is pace. The pace of our lives is much too fast and linear, driven by goals and time schedules. In therapy, we slow down, we breathe together, and we create a pocket in time where everything – your thoughts, feelings and sensations can come to the surface. We take our time. I trust in the process of us showing up each week to celebrate how far you have come in your relationship, the foundation of your initial attraction to each other and your inner capacities to grow and change in relationship. ​ Making Sense of Neurodiversity: I will share with you what I know about the neurobiology, physiology, and science of neurodiversity and neurotypicality and I will learn from you as a couple, your unique challenges, and your desired areas of improvement. I am a co-creator of your experience, a skilled companion on your couple journey. I am an expert in some areas of counseling and psychology, but I trust that you are the experts in your relationship. Let’s see what we can co-create together! ​ ​ ABOUT ME: I am an Associate Marriage and Family Therapist who received her graduate degree in Counseling Psychology from California Institute of Integral Studies in San Francisco, CA. ​ MY ROOTS: My therapeutic style is optimistic and positive, rooted in my life as a partner, daughter, friend, and mother. My presence stems from having experienced, survived, and healed from a tragic loss of a parent, immigration, two marriages, domestic violence, and divorce. I am a mother of a spirited 6-year-old who has taught him every day since birth about loving deeply, forgiving quickly, and letting go fully. My personal experiences in motherhood and co-parenting under challenging life circumstances have given me the wisdom and ease with which I approach couples and family work. And my decision to become a couples therapist came from empathizing with my intergenerationally-wounded parents and grandparents who deeply loved one another yet struggled to speak each other’s love languages. ​ THE PROCESS OF COUPLES HEALING: I see my role as helping couples become more relational through untangling from relational patterns which may have helped them survive in their families of origin and previous relationships but are no longer serving them in the context of their current couple. My hope for couples is to get to a place where they no longer need me and are thriving in relationship with each other. ​ This journey from surviving to thriving is at the heart of my vision for a fulfilling couple hood. I have worked with couples who experience relational conflict due to major life transitions, neurodiversity, blending a family, lack of intimacy, parenting and co-parenting differences, aging and illness, infidelity, loss of desire, substance use, cultural differences, and life/work imbalances. Together, we discover and unearth the resiliency within and learn to draw on that inner wisdom as we weather the storms with minimal damages to the relationship. ​ Other areas of focus (in addition to Neurodiversity): Couples going through life transitions Blended families Parenting and Co-parenting Coaching Communication/Intimacy Sex, sexuality, and desire Pre-engagement and pre-marital Family of Origin Work Couples struggling with Trauma Cross-Cultural couples Neurodiverse Retreats Inna Kuchmenko specializes in virtual couples retreats offered over Zoom or in-person couples retreats in Northern California. ​ Clients: Couples, Families, Children and Adults. Modalities: Attachment-based, Trauma-informed, Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT), Mindful Self-Compassion, Relational Life Therapy (RLT), Imago, Psychodynamic-Relational, Internal Family Systems, Dialectical Behavior Therapy (DBT), Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT), Gestalt, Positive Psychology, Art Therapy, Play Therapy, Solution-Focused Therapy, Person-Centered Therapy, Humanistic Approach. Languages: Fluent in Russian, Ukrainian and English ​ ​License: Registered Associate, AMFT #120631 Supervised by Dr. Harry Motro, LMFT #53452​ Employed by New Path Couples Therapy Inc. Specialty areas: Cassandra, Sex-Kink-Poly, Trans, Parenting, LGBTQIA+, Sex, Couples Retreat, Neurodiverse Couples, Autism, Parenting Neurodiversity, Children, ADHD, Buddist - Spiritual, Teens Reach Out Now First name Last name Email If you have a therapist(s) in mind, include the name(s) below: Send Thanks for reaching out! We will respond within 24 hours. Take an Autism Test

< Back Monica Attia Neurodiverse Couples: What is often missing from traditional couples counseling is the acknowledgment of diversity in neurotype, culture, career, and family dynamics. Drawing on my own personal experiences, which involve navigating the complexities of cultural adaptation, major career transitions, and my own neurodiverse marriage, I am dedicated to supporting couples in similar situations. Our approach is rooted in acknowledging and celebrating these diversities, while working collaboratively with couples to create a harmony and synergy unique to them. In our sessions, we delve into the intersectionality of neurodiversity, culture, career, and family influences, with the goal of fostering a holistic approach to your relationship dynamic. Together, we explore the intricate interplay of these factors, creating a space where understanding, resilience, and celebration of differences form the foundation for lasting connections. To put it simply: It’s impossible to truly know someone without acknowledging what makes them different. And as the old adage goes... to know someone is to love someone. This is a therapy experience that not only acknowledges the diverse facets of your relationship, but also embraces them as catalysts for growth and harmony. My Roots: I am a first generation Egyptian-American lawyer turned therapist with ADHD and autism. My younger self struggled with the pressure to conform both culturally and neurotypically. I believed that I would only have a healthy life and happy relationships if I forced myself to be “normal.” I later learned that celebratory self-acceptance opens the door to meaningful connections. I now take pride in my neurodivergence. So much so, that if given the option, I wouldn’t switch brains. Even if it would have definitely made my childhood and adolescence easier. Why? Because my neurodiversity connects me to a community of resilient and amazing folks. It’s now my life’s mission as a therapist to support and celebrate other neurodiverse individuals and couples . This world wasn’t designed with our needs in mind, but this world is made better because we’re in it. You deserve to feel seen and understood, too. ​ NEURO-INCLUSIVE NOURISHMENT ​ The Paradox of Food Food is paradoxical. It’s necessary for survival, yet can feel like torture. It’s deeply personal, yet everyone around you has an opinion. It’s supposedly simple, and yet it’s often complicated. Food can simultaneously feel fun and connecting, and yet dangerous and isolating.For the neurodiverse mind, this paradox is understandably frustrating and overwhelming. Eating “properly” felt like a full time job that I never had enough energy for thanks to sensory issues, executive dysfunction, and the shame for not conforming to the “societal norm.” Societal Expectations Because, of course, the media, family, friends, peers and literal strangers, have a lot to say about our food and our bodies. It’s incessant, aggravating, contradicting, and completely unrealistic. It doesn’t take into account your specific history, trauma, medical needs, culture, neurotype, or preferences! So let’s opt out of those societal expectations, and figure out what you need together. Without judgment, without coercion, and with lots of empathy, because I’ve lived the struggle too. A nourished body and a peaceful mind are possible. ​ To read more about Neuro-inclusive Nourishment, click here. ​ Certificates Board registered Associate Marriage and Family Therapist #141520 (supervised by Dr. Harry Motro , clinical director) Certified in Emotionally Focused Couples Therapy Certified in Brainspotting (for trauma therapy) She Rocks the Spectrum Therapist Neuro-inclusive Nourishment Specialist Education Masters of Science, Marriage and Family Therapy - San Diego State University Post-Baccalaureate Psychological Science Program - University of California, Irvine Juris Doctor - Georgetown University Law Center Bachelor of Arts, Political Science - University of California, Los Angeles ​ Clients Neurodiverse women Autistic, ADHD, Highly Sensitive People Neurodiverse clients with eating struggles Neurodiverse couples Modalities In my therapy practice, I use and am trained in the following client-centered modalities as they align with my belief in the significance of emotions, personal narratives, and the mind-body connection in healing and personal growth: Emotionally Focused Therapy Brainspotting (for trauma therapy) Internal Family Systems Narrative Therapy License Associate Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist, #139592 (supervised by Dr. Harry Motro , clinical director) Specialty areas: Sex-Kink-Poly, Trans, Assessment, ADHD, Autism, Eating & Autism, Teens, Sex, Brainspotting, Neurodiverse Couples, Internal Family Systems, LGBTQIA+ Reach Out Now First name Last name Email If you have a therapist(s) in mind, include the name(s) below: Send Thanks for reaching out! We will respond within 24 hours. Take an Autism Test

Overlap Diagnosis Traits Origins Help! SUPPORT for DUAL DIAGNOSIS (AUTISM + ADHD) AUTISM AND ADHD OVERLAP ​ WHAT IS AuDHD? ​ AuDHD is a relatively new unofficial term that describes a person who has both autism and attention deficit hyperactivity disorder (ADHD). Thus, the merging the terms Autism and ADHD into AuDHD. STATISTICAL OVERLAP ​ Autism Spectrum Disorder (ASD) and Attention Deficit Hyperactivity Disorder (ADHD) are both neurodevelopmental disorders that can affect a person's behavior, social interaction, and communication. ​ There is a significant overlap in symptoms between the two disorders, such as difficulties with attention, impulse control, and hyperactivity. It is estimated that 30% to 80% of individuals with ASD also have symptoms of ADHD , and up to 20% to 50% of individuals with ADHD may also have symptoms of ASD (Kernbach et al., 2018). ​ Some studies suggest that the two disorders may share similar genetic and neurobiological mechanisms . Research has also shown that both disorders may involve differences in brain structure and function, particularly in regions related to social communication and executive functioning. ​ ​ GETTING A CLEAR DIAGNOSIS The Diagnostics and Statistics Manual (DSM) provides the standards for mental health diagnosis in the mental health sector. Prior to 2013, the DSM did NOT permit co-occurring diagnoses of these conditions as they were viewed as mutually exclusive. ​ With the publication of the 5th edition of the DSM (DSM-5), the American Psychiatric Association acknowledged that a single diagnosis did not describe the wide range of symptoms many clients experienced. Accordingly, if you seek an assessment today and you meet the criteria for both ASD and ADHD, you would receive a dual diagnosis of ASD and ADHD . The shorthand that is sometimes used outside of the official terminology is AuDHD. ​ If you are interested in a formal diagnosis, please know that we partner with the Adult Autism Assessments Center which would be glad to talk to you about getting assessed for both Autism and ADHD . COMMON AND DIFFE RENT TRAITS ​ It is important to note that the main diagnostic criteria of ASD and ADHD do not overlap. The core characteristics of ASD are: differences in communication and social interaction, repeated behaviors, and specialized interests. By contrast, the core symptoms of ADHD are: attention difficulties, hyperactivity, and impulsivity. Sometimes symptoms may appear similar but the underlying origins are different. This can be seen in the points below: ​ Individuals with ASD and ADHD can struggle with friendships ; yet, this may be attributed to: social communication deficits for those with ASD as opposed to impulsivity for individuals with ADHD. Individuals with ASD and ADHD struggle focusing on items that they to not have interest in. For those with ASD, it may be due to an intense pull to focus on something else. For those with ADHD, the issue may be one of distraction. Individuals with ASD and ADHD often have some degree of motor-skill deficits which may impact coordination and fine motor skills like handwriting. For ASD, this may appear as repetitive movements. For ADHD this could manifest as restlessness . People with ASD and ADHD more frequently have sensory-processing differences when compared to others with typical development. For individuals with ASD, they have greater differences in auditory processing than children with ADHD or who are considered neurotypical. For visual processing, children with ADHD score higher than those with ASD or neurotypical (Little et al., 2019). ​ ORIGINS OF ASD AND ADHD ​ GENETICS Studies have identified several genes that may be involved in both ASD and ADHD. One such gene is the dopamine receptor D4 (DRD4) gene, which is involved in the regulation of the neurotransmitter dopamine (Thapar & Cooper, 2013). Dopamine is known to play a key role in many cognitive and emotional processes, including attention, motivation, and reward. Variants of the DRD4 gene have been associated with an increased risk of both ASD and ADHD . ​ Another gene that has been linked to both ASD and ADHD is the serotonin transporter gene (SLC6A4). This gene is involved in the regulation of serotonin, a neurotransmitter that is important for mood, appetite, and sleep. Variants of the SLC6A4 gene have been associated with an increased risk of both conditions. In addition to these genes, there are several other genes that have been implicated in both ASD and ADHD, including the cadherin family of genes , which are involved in cell adhesion and signaling, and the neurexin genes, which are involved in synaptic function. It is important to note that genetics is only one of several factors that contribute to the development of ASD and ADHD. However, understanding the genetic basis of ASD and ADHD can help researchers develop better treatments and interventions for individuals with these conditions. ​ Pregnancy Pregnancy is a crucial stage in the development of the fetus, and the environment in which it grows can have a significant impact on its future health and development. Research has shown that there may be a connection between pregnancy and the risk of developing Autism Spectrum Disorder (ASD) and Attention Deficit Hyperactivity Disorder (ADHD). ​ Several studies have investigated the link between pregnancy and the risk of developing ASD and ADHD. One potential factor is maternal infection during pregnancy. Studies have shown that infections during pregnancy, particularly during the first trimester, may increase the risk of ASD and ADHD in offspring. Maternal stress during pregnancy has also been associated with an increased risk of ASD and ADHD in offspring. Another factor that has been investigated is exposure to environmental toxins during pregnancy. Prenatal exposure to chemicals such as lead, mercury, and polychlorinated biphenyls (PCBs) has been linked to an increased risk of developing ASD and ADHD in offspring. ​ It is important to note that not all pregnancies that experience these factors will result in the development of ASD or ADHD . Additionally, many cases of ASD and ADHD do not have a clear cause or risk factor identified. TREATMENT APPROACHES ​ The treatment approaches for adults with AuDHD (autism and ADHD) can be challenging because these two conditions can interact with each other in complex ways. However, there are several strategies that can be effective in managing symptoms and improving daily functioning. Behavioral Therapy: Behavioral therapy, including cognitive-behavioral therapy (CBT), can be helpful in managing symptoms of both autism and ADHD. CBT is a type of therapy that focuses on changing negative thoughts and behaviors. It can be especially helpful for individuals with AuDHD because it can target specific behaviors and thought patterns that are causing difficulties. CBT can be delivered in individual or group settings and can be adapted to meet the unique needs of individuals with AuDHD. Please know that the goal of behavior therapy must NOT be to turn you into a neurotypical person . It is to help you find ways to cope while living in an allistic world and be TRUE TO YOUSELF! Social Skills Training: Social skills training can help individuals with AuDHD learn social cues, communication strategies, and appropriate social behaviors. Social skills training can also provide opportunities for individuals with AuDHD to practice social interactions in a safe and supportive environment. This type of therapy can be delivered in individual or group settings and can be tailored to meet the specific needs of individuals with AuDHD. Medication: Medications such as stimulants (e.g., Adderall, Ritalin) and non-stimulants (e.g., Strattera) can be used to treat ADHD symptoms. If you are autistic, the use of medication is sometimes used to help with accompanying issues such as depression or anxiety but the use of medication for autism is not well established. We always refer your to a prescribing psychiatrist or physician for the appropriate guidance. Occupational Therapy: Occupational therapy can help individuals with AuDHD learn skills to manage sensory issues and improve daily functioning. For example, occupational therapy can help individuals with AuDHD learn strategies to manage hypersensitivity to sensory input (e.g., noise, light) or hyposensitivity (e.g., lack of awareness of pain). Occupational therapy can also help individuals with AuDHD develop strategies to manage daily tasks such as self-care, organization, and time management. Please know that our group does not provide medications or occupational therapy but would be glad to help you think through these options and integrate them in your overall plan. ​ A PLAN CUSTOMIZED FOR YOU ​ It is essential to remember that treatment for AuDHD should be individualized to meet the specific needs of each person. We would love to provide a comprehensive evaluation and develop a treatment plan that fits you. References: Kernbach, J. M., Satterthwaite, T. D., Bassett, D. S., Smallwood, J., Margulies, D., Krall, S., Shaw, P., Varoquaux, G., Thirion, B., Konrad, K., & Bzdok, D. (2018). Shared endo-phenotypes of default mode dysfunction in attention deficit/hyperactivity disorder and autism spectrum disorder. Translational Psychiatry, 8(1), 133. https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC6050263/ ​ Little, L. M., Dean, E., Tomchek, S., & Dunn, W. (2018). Sensory processing patterns in autism, attention deficit hyperactivity disorder, and typical development. Physical & Occupational Therapy in Pediatrics, 38(3), 243–254. https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/29240517/ ​ Thapar, A., & Cooper, M. (2013). Copy number variation: What is it and what has it told us about child psychiatric disorders? Journal of the American Academy of Child and Adolescent Psychiatry, 52(8), 772–774. https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC3919207/ ​ Overlap Diagnosis Traits Origins Help!

< Back Nicole Knowlton Neurodiverse Couples Nicole was in a long-term relationship where neurodiversity was present . Nicole understands and believes that it is vital to identify solid communication strategies between partners, using specific techniques for handling relationship troubles, whether perpetual or solvable. These techniques encourage the understanding that emotions are important, there is no absolute reality, only two subjective ones, acceptance is crucial, and a development of fondness and admiration within the relationship. Nicole encourages couples to celebrate the small steps towards a larger goal and helps keep focus on what the couple can do to set themselves up to thrive. ​ Parenting Neurodiverse Children Nicole has personal experience as a mother of a neurodivergent teen, and appreciates that parenting neurodivergent children can be exponentially intense. Nicole has navigated the educational battles to obtain IEP and 504 plans, and understands the unique family environment needed to help families to support each other. She teaches parents positive parenting skills that encourage the use of “Why?” to address the child’s behavior, focusing on an understanding of the purpose that behavior serves the child and what they are trying to tell you. Allowing the behavior to inform what needs to be put into place ahead of time to help the child manage the particular challenge, and also ensuring that consequences are related to the behavior/issue as a last resort to addressing behavior. Nicole encourages parents to catch their child’s positive behaviors whenever possible and to name specifically what they see so as to encourage the positive behavior to reoccur. Other Areas of Focus Addiction Anger Management Major Life Transition Support, co-parenting, blended families, separation/divorce Parent Coaching Sex Therapy​ Neurodiverse Couples Retreat - Nicole Knowlton specializes in virtual couples retreats offered over Zoom or in-person couples retreats in Southern California. ​ Education Undergraduate degree in Business, Double Master’s degree in Psychology and Alternate Dispute Resolution Juris Doctorate degree ​ Clients Couples Families Modalities Coaching Dialectical Behavioral Therapy (DBT) Gottman Method Internal Family Systems (IFS) Solution Focused Brief (SFBT) Strength-Based Structural Family Therapy More about Nicole In addition to her couples therapy and coaching, Nicole has a mediation private practice in Irvine, California. She also facilitates Batterer’s Intervention Groups, teaches parenting and anger management groups, and helps clients and families combat addiction. License Registered Associate, AMFT# 122657 Supervised by Dr. Harry Motro , LMFT #53452 Employed by New Path Couples Therapy Inc. Specialty areas: Addiction, Assessment, Blended, Autism, Parenting Neurodiversity, ND at Work, ADHD, Neurodiverse Couples, Internal Family Systems, DBT, Couples Retreat, Parenting Reach Out Now First name Last name Email If you have a therapist(s) in mind, include the name(s) below: Send Thanks for reaching out! We will respond within 24 hours. Take an Autism Test

< Back Tony Traback Welcome! My name is Tony. I have been meeting with couples for over 20 years and been married for 17. I would be honored to help you. NEURODIVERSE COUPLES: At the outset, I want to recognize that relationships are not easy. In spite of the inherent beauty in the variety of life, Neurodiversity adds another level of challenge, especially if there is a lack of understanding. Communication can break down. Unhealthy patterns can destroy trust. Even happy life transitions can upset the good patterns we work hard to form. While relationships can be a profound source of companionship, during rough patches, we can feel unseen, unheard, and lonely; even our partner’s presence can become a source of irritation. Even been there? The good news is that you do not need to walk this road by yourself. There is hope. The truth is no one steps into a relationship or marriage with all the tools one needs to thrive. Especially a neurodiverse relationship!!! Most of us need help along the way. And this is where I come in. With me, you will grow both personally and relationally. You will live more fully out of your authentic self, accepting of yourself and your partner's differences. You will cultivate habits to help you flourish and identify barriers getting in the way. You will learn to say “yes” to the things that bring you life. Relationally, you will improve your communication and build intimacy so fights become conversations which lead to knowing one another more deeply. You will identify the destructive dances in your relationship and learn new ways of being together—so that you laugh and play together again. Don’t assume your current experience is all there is. ​ Education & Relevant Experience I grew up in a divorced home and a blended family. My parents and stepparents did not know how to communicate well. There was infidelity and lots of conflict. If I am honest, it was a mess. My parents needed help but never got it. And I think that early experience shaped much of why I have such a passion for working with couples. I attended Claremont McKenna College, studying politics, philosophy, and economics. After college, I joined the Peace Corps and served in Kenya, and then worked for four years with youth and their families as a counselor in Santa Clara County. I later earned a Doctorate in Ministry from Fuller Theological Seminary and a Masters in Psychology from California Southern University. I have spent the last twenty years trying to help individuals, couples, and families flourish mentally, emotionally, and relationally. I love working with couples and look forward to meeting you. Other areas of focus (in addition to Neurodiversity):​ Trauma Premarital Counseling Cultural Issues Couples Counseling Family Conflict Separation Therapy Life Transitions Grief Modalities Solution Focused Therapy Existential Therapy Emotion Focused Therapy Person Centered Clients Couples Individuals Families License Registered AMFT #134113 Supervised by Dr. Harry Motro , LMFT #53452 Employed by New Path Couples Therapy Inc. ​ Specialty areas: Christian, Addiction, Affairs, Neurodiverse Couples Reach Out Now First name Last name Email If you have a therapist(s) in mind, include the name(s) below: Send Thanks for reaching out! We will respond within 24 hours. Take an Autism Test

< Back Leila Pirnia Neurodiverse Couples Insurmountable Problems? Being in a relationship where one, or both, partners has a neurodiversity can present unique challenges that may seem insurmountable at times . Perhaps you and your partner have been struggling to connect, and you're not sure how to move forward. You may feel like you're speaking different languages, that your partner doesn't understand you, or that you can't find common ground. ​ I've worked with many couples in similar situations, and I've seen firsthand the toll it can take on both partners and the relationship. One partner may feel like they're always walking on eggshells, trying to avoid triggering their partner's sensitivities, while the other partner may feel like they're constantly being criticized or misunderstood. Communication may break down, leaving both partners feeling frustrated, alone, and disconnected. ​ Perspective Taking to Bridge the Gap With the right support and guidance, it's possible to create a safe and loving partnership that enables each of you to thrive and grow. As a neurodiverse couples’ therapist, my goal is to help you both understand each other's perspectives and needs , and to find ways to bridge the gap between you . I'll work with you to identify areas of strength in your relationship, as well as areas that need improvement. We'll explore strategies to build empathy, trust, and communication skills, and we'll develop tools to manage conflict and build resilience. ​ I approach therapy with a focus on collaboration, compassion, and cultural sensitivity. I believe that each person and relationship is unique, and I strive to create a safe and non-judgmental space where you can explore your experiences and feelings without fear of criticism or rejection. I'll work with you to tailor our sessions to your specific needs and goals, and we'll work at a pace that feels comfortable for you both. ​ If you're struggling in your relationship and feel like you're at a crossroads, I encourage you to reach out for support. Together, we can work towards building a stronger, more connected partnership that brings out the best in each of you. ​ Parenting Neurodiverse Children, including ADHD, Autism, Anxiety, OCD, Giftedness, and Twice Exceptional (2e) As a parent, you seek insightful solutions for your unique child rather than labels and generalizations. You may have long recognized that your child differs from other children. Despite seeking answers in parenting books and receiving advice from friends and family members, you have yet to find lasting solutions to your child's behavior. In fact, some of the advice may have even caused setbacks or worked as temporary band-aids, at best. You may be in awe of your child's unique talents in certain areas, but at the same time, perplexed by their inability to complete certain basic tasks. You may observe uneven patterns in your child's development, leaving you uncertain about how to set appropriate expectations. To Push or Back off? You may wonder how much to push your child to their full potential and when that pushing may be jeopardizing their mental health or pushing them farther away. You may notice that teachers, friends, and family unfairly judge your child, leading to a negative impact on their self-esteem and sense of worth. It's possible that you have already enrolled your child in various programs or interventions, but you are still searching for a more comprehensive understanding of how to best support your child and your family. You may be hesitant to seek help, out of concern that a professional may not be able to perceive your child's uniqueness and individuality in the same way that you do. Toll on Relationships Meanwhile, this struggle with meeting your child’s needs can be taking a toll on your relationship with your partner and other children. You’ve been struggling to meet everyone else’s need in the family at the expense of your own and you recognize you need a better strategy. “Beneath every behavior there is a feeling. And beneath every feeling there is a need. And when we meet that need rather than focus on the behavior, we begin to deal with the cause, not the symptom. ” My Approach When working with families, I strive to integrate a personalized, emotion-focused approach with evidence-based research and best practices . This approach allows us to create a meaningful connection and work together towards positive change. I create a comprehensive and tailored plan of action that takes into account your family’s and your child's unique strengths and challenges, without solely relying on labels and diagnoses. I work with parents every step of the way and help them discover the “why” beneath their child’s behavior and guide them toward positive changes. I offer specific guidance to help parents engage with their children in ways that tap into their intrinsic motivation for growth and success. My approach is founded upon evidence-based neuropsychology, curiosity, thoroughness, and clinical integrity, to help your child and the family reach their full potential. In our work together, you will come away with a nuanced and individualized roadmap that is tailored to your child's unique needs, allowing you to make current and future decisions that are suited to their individuality. I am a firm believer that therapy has the power to unlock the world-changing potential of the neurodiverse mind, and I am committed to helping your child achieve their full potential. ​ Read more about our care for Twice-Exceptional Children . Specialties and Certifications Registered Associate Marriage and Family Therapist Registered Associate Professional Clinical Counselor Neurodiverse Parenting Specialist Neurodiverse Couples Specialist Kids and Teens Therapist Cassandra Syndrome Specialist ADHD, OCD, and Anxiety Specialist ​ Life Experience Associate Psychotherapist at Neurodiverse Couples Counseling Center and Autism Parenting Therapy Center. Training with Dr. Harry Moto, Clinical Director and Founder. Clinical training - The Center for Professional Counseling of Los Angeles. Trained from a psychodynamic, depth-oriented clinical theoretical orientation, integrating alternative modalities as needed such as family systems theory, attachment theory, and CBT/DBT/ACT. Clinical training - Outreach Concern. Work with children, teens, and families as a school-based mental health therapist at multiple school sites. Handle a diverse caseload of students with behavioral, social, emotional, and academic needs. Incorporate a strengths-based orientation to foster academic growth and help students reach their personal potential, both inside and outside the classroom. Graduate Research Associate working alongside Dr. Shelly Harrell in her Culture, Wisdom, and Resilience Lab. My primary focus was the development of a unique application designed specifically for mental health therapists. This innovative tool enables therapists to incorporate quotes from thought leaders into their therapy practices, promoting greater wisdom, insight, and resilience among their clients. Prior President, CFO, COO, and Founder of various tech companies, startups, and non-profit organizations. Learnings from the corporate world helped shape my passion for understanding people’s behaviors, motivations, and drives. These experiences have equipped me with a unique perspective and skill set that I bring to my work as a mental health therapist. ​ Education Bachelor of Science, Massachusetts Institute of Technology Master of Arts in Clinical Psychology with an Emphasis on Marriage & Family Therapy, Pepperdine University Other Areas of Focus High Achievers Tech Executives, Corporate Executives Midlife and Life Transitions First Generation, Immigrants and Children of Immigrants Trilingual: Farsi (Persian), Spanish, and English Clients Individuals Couples Families Teens/Kids Modalities Psychodynamic/depth-oriented psychology EFT (emotion focused therapy for couples) IFS (internal family systems) CBT (cognitive behavioral therapy) including ACT and DBT Family Systems Dynamics Solution focused therapy License Registered Associate Marriage & Family Therapist, MFTA #138180 California Association of Marriage and Family Therapists (CAMFT) Psi Chi, the international honor society in psychology. Supervised by Dr. Harry Motro, LMFT #53452 Employed by New Path Couples Therapy, Inc. Specialty areas: LGBTQIA+, Muslim background, Sex-Kink-Poly, Addiction, Assessment, Parenting Neurodiversity, Parenting, Teens, ND at Work, Neurodiverse Couples, ADHD, Autism, Buddist - Spiritual, Cassandra, Discernment, Internal Family Systems, Children, Trans Reach Out Now First name Last name Email If you have a therapist(s) in mind, include the name(s) below: Send Thanks for reaching out! We will respond within 24 hours. Take an Autism Test

< Back Blaze Lazarony My Story I’m Barbara Lazarony, but everyone calls me Blaze. For 20 years, I worked in the fast-paced world of retail, where, as a Senior Director, I led and mentored executives and managed $2.5 billion in sales in 42 locations across the United States. I was uber-successful with a sassy job title and a large office overlooking Market Street in San Francisco. The young girl born on a farm in rural Ohio thought she had finally made it! I was living as an overstressed workaholic. The signs that something was wrong with my health kept getting louder and louder until I couldn’t ignore them any longer; in 2003, I was told I had thyroid cancer , and I decided to resign from my job. Those were dark times for me; in addition to cancer, I was diagnosed with post-traumatic stress disorder (PTSD), depression, anxiety, and obsessive-compulsive disorder (OCD). It was a journey, and I sought support from modern and holistic medicine, plus a fantastic therapist and coach. The truth was, I had no idea who I was beyond my job title. ​ Sadly, no one in the medical profession back then told me I had both an acquired and genetic form of neurodiversity; it took me a while to discover that my brain was wired differently. I don’t have Autism or ADHD; however, I know what it feels like to be different from everyone else! ​ CANCER WAS THE SPARK I NEEDED TO IGNITE THE FIRE THAT CHANGED MY LIFE. –BLAZE LAZARONY That fire led me to become an Advanced Certified Integral Coach and start my own business. I loved being a coach for eighteen years but realized I could not help people achieve long-lasting success, fulfillment, and healing because I didn’t have the skills, training, and knowledge to get to the root of issues holding them back. To support people in the way I wanted to, I decided to go to graduate school at the age of fifty-three and earn my Master's degree in Counseling Psychology. ​ Since finishing my degree, I have navigated different types of cancer twice and supported my life partner through his own cancer journey. I also have a history of autoimmune disease diagnosis; therefore, I am someone who understands the deep well of grief that needs to be acknowledged and validated in therapy. ​ Main Areas of Focus Neurodiverse Couples I am committed to helping couples like you who are neurodiverse. I’ve learned how to love and be loved by my husband; we’ve been together since we were seniors in high school forty years ago. We have experienced grief, loss, the death of loved ones, financial issues, health challenges, and even being separated for two years, yet we continue to love each other. I offer my clients both the lived experience and the clinical training to navigate the challenges of neurodiverse relationships because I’m in one myself. So, if you’re trying to navigate relationship challenges, I can help. For example, many couples come to therapy with communication difficulties; perhaps they can’t understand one another or are having trouble communicating their needs to their partner, leading to misunderstandings and even conflict. Clients also express having problems managing their levels of anxiety or impulsivity, where one person constantly feels stressed or overwhelmed while the other is more relaxed. Finding a balance between giving someone space to feel their feelings and not trying to “fix” them is a topic we address in therapy. I help both partners in a neurodiverse relationship learn to understand each other better by using specific strategies for communication. Communicating openly with your partner about what you need and being willing to negotiate is essential. Let’s face it: all of us get triggered, and some strategies can help manage these triggers, especially in neurodiverse relationships. Key strategies include learning about each other's unique triggers and creating ways to manage overstimulation. If you are in a neurodiverse relationship and struggling, please reach out to me for help. You deserve to create a thriving relationship full of patience, love, and understanding. ​ Sensory Processing Difficulties Supporting clients with sensory processing disorders, such as Alexithymia, HSP (Highly Sensitive People), and Interoception difficulties, requires a comprehensive and tailored approach. As a professional, I thrive in supporting clients who have challenges processing and interpreting sensory information, leading to anxiety, discomfort, and feelings of being overwhelmed. Therefore, creating a safe and calm environment that minimizes sensory triggers and provides clients with the tools needed to regulate their sensory systems is essential. This may include sensory integration therapy, mindfulness techniques, and self-awareness exercises. As a practitioner, I strive to make this process enjoyable by incorporating fun activities like sensory play, relaxation exercises, and positive reinforcement. By supporting my clients with sensory processing disorders, I can help them develop the skills needed to thrive daily. ​ Adult Autism & ADHD Assessments I provide neurodiversity-affirmative assessments and therapeutic services to empower individuals to reach their full potential. I utilize a comprehensive process, including questionnaires, discussions, observations, and evaluations for adults to assess for Autism and ADHD. Including the in-depth MIDAS-2 and SRS-2 for Autism and the CAARS and Brown EF/A scales for ADHD. Together, we will explore and identify opportunities for your personal growth, acknowledging your unique Autistic and ADHD-filled gifts so that you can lead a life of success and fulfillment. In addition, I understand the special difficulties that neurodivergent individuals face daily. I strive to help my clients confront these challenges head-on, ultimately finding ways to communicate better, socialize easily, and feel more comfortable in the world. I am excited to be your advocate, mentor, and therapist on this journey; if I could have had help when I received my neurodiverse diagnosis, it would have made a world of difference. I would be honored to join you on your path toward hope and confidence! Specialties and Certifications Registered Associate Marriage and Family Therapist Registered Associate Professional Clinical Counselor Neurodiverse Couples Specialist Autism & ADHD Assessment Specialist Advanced Certified Trauma Specialist Advanced Certified Integral Coach Brainspotting Certified-Level I & II ​ Life Experience Has personal experience in multiple neurodiverse relationships Worked with thousands of people as a Coach, Manager, Leader, and Mentor Former careers as an Executive and Business Coach, Executive Director in a non-profit, and Senior Director in retail-coaching people, as well as managing staffing operations and finances ​ Education Bachelor of Science in Home Economics, Fashion Merchandising, The Ohio State University Master of Science in Clinical Psychology, Sofia University, also earned a Certificate in Creative Expression ​ More about Barbara (Blaze) Diagnosed as Neurodiverse 20 years ago Offers Neurodiverse Couples Retreats Married for 35 years to her high school sweetheart, together for 40 years Cancer Survivor-3 times! Guest Lecturer on Leadership at California State University Northridge Co-Author of five books-including two about business and two of poetry Links to Blog Posts Barbara (Blaze) Lazarony's Blog Posts Specialty areas: Assessment, Sex, Sex-Kink-Poly, Discernment, Cancer & Autism, Neurodiverse Couples, Autism, Cassandra, Couples Retreat, Brainspotting Reach Out Now First name Last name Email If you have a therapist(s) in mind, include the name(s) below: Send Thanks for reaching out! We will respond within 24 hours. Take an Autism Test

< Back Kristin Herbert Background and Education Conceived accidentally during the “summer of love,” I was surrendered by my birth parents as an infant, then adopted and raised as one of two adopted children. Reunited with my birth parents and extended families on both sides as an adult has resulted in an inconclusive, ongoing self-study of nature and nurture. Following my divorce as a young adult, I earned an MFA in Poetry at the University of Pittsburgh in an effort to turn my heartbreak into poetry. My writer’s resume, in addition my own published poetry, fiction, journalism, and creative nonfiction, includes working as a university instructor, in academic and literary book publishing, as a massage therapist, and at educational nonprofit for underserved populations including foster youth. After my second divorce, as a single parent navigating complex relational trauma recovery and learning to accommodate and support the neurodivergence in my family, I earned a Master’s degree in clinical psychology and began training to became a therapist. Now, I am ten years along in a blended family that includes a spectrum of neurodiverse brains and nervous systems: those of my own and my partner, our combined four children, and our dog and cats. I find inspiration and meaning from my ongoing work with an array of clients who share the courage to turn inward in order to better understand their experience and relate ever more deeply to themselves and the people they love. ​ My Approach Imagine two different nervous systems, two divergent ways of experiencing and being in the world. Often, we find ourselves polarized, stuck in an either-or mentality, vying with the person we love most for our goodness, our truth, our most authentic way of being and being seen. In an effort to achieve a shared perspective, we may lose ourselves and invalidate one another. Couples therapy interventions that work for neurotypical couples can fall flat when neurodiversity is in the mix, leaving both partners feeling unseen, misunderstood, exhausted, and even hopeless. But there is hope, with a couples therapist who is dedicated to understanding the ways in which your neurodiversity affects your relationship. My approach is informed by curiosity and attachment theory, as well as the ability to hold complexity and paradox. Moving from an either-or to a both-and perspective, our minds can expand to imagine another point of view without sacrificing our own. Nowhere is this opportunity more present than in a neurodiverse relationship. I will help you discover the best of both worlds where each of you make sense, all of your feelings are valid and important, and you can turn to one another with vulnerability. We will work in session to create shared experiences of safety so your nervous systems can re-set, and your brains and bodies can form new pathways to connection. Highly Sensitive Nervous Systems Neurodivergent minds often run highly sensitive nervous systems. Whether diagnosed (or mis-diagnosed) with autism spectrum disorder (ASD), attention deficit/hyperactivity disorder (ADHD), giftedness, twice-exceptional learners (2e), anxiety, depression, relational trauma, obsessive-compulsive disorder, or any number of other labels, including self-identified “creatives,” many people report experiencing sensory overload. I understand how that feels and how it can impact relationships. I will help you identify and craft ways to support your nervous system and those of your loved ones in your home, relationships, and life. Trust, Infidelity and Betrayal When we love, we are vulnerable. When trust is broken, it can be hard to imagine moving forward. But it’s important to process what happened. Because the rupture was relational, so too must the healing be relational. We’ll work together to understand the factors that contributed to this traumatic experience. We will grieve what was lost and tend to your wounded parts. Whether you are the betrayed or the betrayer, whether you choose to move through this traumatic experience separately or together, you will not be alone. I will help you make sense of what happened and re-establish safety and self-esteem. Blended families ​ My lived experience comprises adoption, biological relations, step-families, divorce, blended families, and neurodiversity. We will work together to map and understand your family of origin patterns, to express your conscious beliefs about what love means, and to explore how your behaviors reveal unknown parts about yourselves and one another. Viktor Frankl writes, “there is a space. In that space is our power to choose our response. In our response lies our growth and our freedom.” In session, we will explore the space between. Other Areas of Focus Supporting neurodiverse couples Exploring and fine-tuning Coping Skills Understanding and Healing Family Dysfunction Establishing Healthy Boundaries Increasing Connection and Intimacy Implementing Self-Compassion and Self-Care Processing Relational Trauma (cPTSD) & Post-Traumatic Growth Mapping Attachment Patterns Processing Grief and Ambiguous Grief Healing from Infidelity and Betrayal Trauma Discernment Counseling Processing Grief related to Infertility and/or Miscarriage Supporting Caregivers Identifying and Healing Burnout Improving Co-Parenting Supporting Life Transitions Coaching Parents, including Single Parents, Co-parents, Adoptive Parents, and Step-parents Exploring Identity LGBTQIA+ Allied Clients Couples Individuals (including Single Parents) Families (including Divorced and Bended Families and Single-Parent Families) Modalities Emotionally-Focused Therapy (EFT) for Couples Existential Therapy Experiential Therapy Attachment-based Therapy Compassion-focused, Humanistic Therapy Culturally Sensitive Therapy Internal Family Systems (IFS) Narrative Therapy Psychodynamic/ Relational Therapy Trauma-Informed Therapy Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT) Coaching License Licensed MFT #141308 Employed by New Path Couples Therapy Inc. Specialty areas: Cassandra, Sex-Kink-Poly, Parenting Neurodiversity, Emotion Focused Therapy, LGBTQIA+, Trans, Buddist - Spiritual, Affairs, Neurodiverse Couples, Autism, ADHD, Blended, Parenting, Discernment, Sex Reach Out Now First name Last name Email If you have a therapist(s) in mind, include the name(s) below: Send Thanks for reaching out! We will respond within 24 hours. Take an Autism Test